I believe that healing doesn’t happen alone — it happens in relationship with others.

But this is also why it can be so challenging!

Because that’s often where hurt happened in the first place. When we are hurt it’s our impulse to isolate and self-protect and for many of us this defence mechanism is deeply ingrained. Just think back to how many times you were sent to your room as a kid for doing something “bad.” While putting yourself into your metaphorical room as an adult might give you the illusion of safety, it actually takes you further away from it.

When we begin to share our struggles with a trusted coach, therapist or guide we begin the true healing work. I’ve seen this happen countless times… People try to go it alone until they finally get sick of bumping up against the same issue over and over again. Not only is it more effective to heal alongside others, but it’s more fun too. 

For years I thought that I had to do it all alone. I couldn’t bear the idea of opening my heart up again after so much hurt. But one day, desperate for some kind of relief, I stumbled into a yoga studio and experienced peace for the first time in years. I felt held by a community of people who were also committed to their own growth and healing and slowly I began to open myself up to receive the support of others.